How emotional Abuse can Escalate Quickly to Physical.

I want to say how blessed I was to have Jean Crowe Advocacy Center reply to me instantly today and them giving me the courage to trust in Metropolitan Nashville Police Department that they would assist after a domestic violence assault. It started with emotional and financial abuseand I’ve in confidence told my godmother that I feel like this is going to get worst. It felt all too familiar with what I went through in my last abusive relationship. I’ll be the first to admit I was hesitant to go through with pressing charges because I haven’t had very good experiences in TN with protection or assistance with past incidents. However, officer John Frazier restored my faith in humanity and good people and officers. He went above and beyond. We had a backup plan in place. He assisted me with my walker. I was even told that he was actively looking for my husband. Which, the advocate said most cops never do that. He was born to be a cop and he’s serving the lord as he sees fit by helping and possibly saving our community. I called and spoke with his supervisor and he said that he would be an a honor (I think) in his file. My husband was charged with Domestic assault and bodily injury. I was also granted immediately a temporary order of protection. He always told me to leave and that my name wasn’t on the title. Per, the op he has to leave and pay spousal support. I fell horrible in waves. Worried he will lose his job and the such, but I can’t allow myself to be treated like that as I can’t defend myself and I can’t allow my son to think that’s how you treat another human. I’m filing for divorce and I will miss our friends, but caregiver burnout without wanting help is something I can’t be subjected too any longer. I share this for anyone who maybe in the same situation and also to say that without the jean Crowe Advocacy center, Hermitage metro precinct, officer Frazier, and night court my life could be going down a much different road. I’m not a victim. But a survivor. I’m not ashamed, but just another bump in the road. God bless everyone!

My Kiddo

#happyfriday from my #baby and I. 💓 This kiddo more than #life. I’m so glad that even though I was 15 when my #son was #born that he turned out to be such a #kind #soul. We grew up together and he’s truly at 19, not just my #son, but my very #bestfriend. He’s raunchy and inappropriate, but hillarious and a genius. He had every

opportunity to go to a great #colllege and decided to stay home and help me/take care of me when I get worst. I love you more than life and one day you’ll know how when I’m being annoying, it’s because you and your #brother are the best parts of me m I #pray for you everyday and worry like crazy, but i love you beyond words and will always be with you, beside you, and behind you for #life

#friday #son #family #fam #mommabear #lifequotes #fridayvibes #fridaymood #fridaymorning #bestfriend #lovethisone #alwaysinspirit #motherslove #mom #momma #mood #madre

Survivor

My son always ask me how I stay so positive and happy. I thought about it one day and I even had to take the time to answer that to myself. I’ve been through very traumatic experiences, but I survived. The answer is I’m a survivor. I look at my past as learning lessons. I learned how to love myself, respect and only accept nothing short of the same from others. I’ve learned my strengths and short comings and I’m proud of the person I am today. I couldn’t say that ten years ago. I was scared. I couldn’t be myself or grow in the relationship I was in. Not only did I allow myself to be held back from many opportunities in my career and with my kids. I was scared of who I was with and who I had become.

I always said I would never be a girl that would get married or have another child. Much less one who would tolerate any sort of physical abuse. However, I was 23 and he was 35. I paid all of our bills for many years in an upscale neighborhood, as I was the only one working. I paid for him to drive a brand new infinity, meanwhile I was borrowing his parents 99 Acura. I in all ways was the stable one for the first 3 years. I kept insurance in him and my children their whole lives. Yet, I was a shell of whom I used to be. This opinionated and outgoing human that always stood up for myself. Originally, he said he loved that about me. They always do. They always know what to say right before they break you down. I was starting to see red flags when he began to take back gifts and emotionally abuse me in the first 9 mts. So, I broke up with him and no contact for a week. Even though he tried. I was done. Boom, a week later on Valentine’s day I found out I was pregnant. I thought like all young and naive girls, maybe a baby would change him. My cousin said no, come up here to VA and raise the kids here. This isn’t going to go well.

I stayed. I shouldn’t have. She was right and not even a week after having my baby, he put his hands on me while holding the baby due to my “lack of cleaning” well. Long story short and choking, a brain injury, bruises, dragged by my hair and arms, threatened daily to kill me if I took my child, stalked, punched, and so much more he ended up with custody. Even worst, I can’t see my child for 5 years due to a restraining order that’s beyond bogus. I’ll probably be dead due to my illness before that’s over. He’s a con artist. Everyone knew and said nothing. His own mom saw him attack me and break my belongings weekly. She even told me she wished he died and she doesn’t know how I never defended myself. He had a gun under the bed, that’s how. The only reason I’m giving my testimony is I want my legacy to not be associated to a physchopath or to all of those whom were mandated reporters and didn’t do anything that would help our family or possibly save a life, but if I just help one person know that they too can change their story and move on. You can do that. If not for you, but for your children. My 19 year old still has PTSD and I carry that terrible burden.

If I could tell my younger self or other men and women, here are warning signs.

Taking back gifts, taking keys or phone so you can’t leave or get help, stalking you, taking pictures of your mail or documents, buying gifts to make up for bad behavior, and the most obvious if you’re scared emotionally or physically. Leave. Document. Restraining orders or Orders of Protection. In the state of tn if you have it documented that you’ve asked then to leave you alone twice that’s cause for harassment. I know it seems tough. There’s long waiting lists at shelters and programs, but call a social worker with your county DHS and especially at the beginning of the year. They have grants to get you back into an apartment or housing. They can even sometimes pay your Deposits and first month rent.

If you ever have any questions I know a lot about this and not just Huntington Disease. Lol please don’t hesitate to reach out and I’m leaving the domestic violence hotline below.

To all the cops, magistrate, medical field, physchiatrist if if you know better then you need to do better. You’re serving the community and it’s your duty to inform and assist. That goes for the DA too. You’re failing TN families in terms of domestic violence and statistics.

+18007997233
911 in emergency

Vital Stim

#vitalstim time #pic from #speechtherapy yesterday. I’m so excited my #insurance covered it. My #girlfriend whom also had #huntingtondisease said she went from #choking 8 times a day to 2 times a month. Obviously, you can tell I like to have #fun and make the best of it by taking #embarassing #pictures and #posting. 😂😜😁

Layla Sleep Weighted Blanket

As, I was doing #physicaltherapy, my #donation of a #weightedblanket from @laylasleep arrived. Mid session my PT said we had to open it. She was just as excited as me. She told me every #neurology #patient needs one and often used for many other reasons!

It feels amazing on the inside, like a microfiber velvet feeling and although it’s a #weightedblanket it was beyond #comfortable, made well, and a #beautiful #color. I’m so #excited and beyond #grateful to #laylasleep for their generosity to the #huntingtondisease #community and #neurology, as well. Remember, though it’s #multipurpose and used for many other reasons. I believe my #physicaltherapist said it was good for #ptsd and #depression too. So, basically #any #reason is a #cause to get one. 😁 Thanks again, I’m forever #grateful and looking forward to finally having #good #sleep.

#tuesdaythoughts #tuesday #tuesdaymorningfinds #tuesdaymorning #tuesdaymotivation #delivery #sleep #blanket #weightedblanket #thankyou #grateful #blessings #blessed #donatedforagoodcause #co #company #companyculture #laylasleep #bed

Support Local Artist and Designer’s!

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y wonderful Facebook Friends, you have to check out my dear friend Jay Dee’s new custom design shop the Gingerseed Gallery LLC. Facebook page, website, and Instagram Not only is the most creative and artistic person I know, but he put his blood and tears into his designs in honor of his late mother. His work not only includes the last bar he designed and built which was beyond beautiful, but he does many other designs. He’s currently building a custom DJ booth that he designed and has a TV, acrylic and color changing LEDs in it. I could go on about all of his other talents, but I’ll let his work speak for itself. He’s a native and a local new business, let’s give our support to him and in honor of his mom whom he loves dearly. Also, he’s one of the hardest workers and perfectionist I know. He’s so dedicated to his work and his work ethic is out of this world. I’ve known for him years and would never be so proud to show off a friend of mines work if it wasn’t so amazing. Please just check it out.

Website information is below, as well as Instagram handle and of course pictures.

https://thegingerseedgallery.com
Instagram handle is @thegingerseedgallery
Facebook Page is: https://www.facebook.com/The-Gingerseed-Gallery-1970225046421483/?ti=as
Twitter and more to come.